I used to believe that everything was limited.
Time. Money. Opportunities. Love. Joy.
I thought you had to fight for your place at the table, that if someone else succeeded, it somehow meant there would be less for me. I lived in survival mode, constantly looking over my shoulder, afraid to dream too big because it felt like dreaming was for other people—people with more resources, more support, more luck.
The truth? I didn’t grow up hearing words like “abundance.” I didn’t know that mindset mattered more than circumstances. I didn’t realize that my thoughts could be my prison—or my breakthrough.
But here I am now, slowly learning that abundance isn’t just about money or stuff. It’s a way of thinking, living, and believing that there is more than enough—for me, for you, for all of us.
And I’m still learning.
This isn’t a story with a neat, polished ending. This is the middle of my journey—a testimony in the making. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that growth is messy, but it’s also beautiful.
The Scarcity Years
Scarcity thinking shows up in sneaky ways.
It’s the voice that says:
• “You can’t afford to rest.”
• “You’re behind.”
• “You’re not good enough to do that.”
• “No one will help you.”
• “It’s too late for you.”
I used to believe those lies. I stayed in relationships too long, worked jobs that drained me, and said “yes” when I really wanted to say “no” because I thought I had to. I thought if I didn’t accept the crumbs, I’d get nothing.
I budgeted in fear, dreamed in limitation, and constantly waited for the other shoe to drop.
Even when blessings came, I would self-sabotage or shrink myself, afraid they would disappear. I didn’t know how to receive. I didn’t believe I was worthy of more.
That’s what scarcity does. It convinces you that you’re stuck, and that there’s no way out.
The Moment Everything Shifted
There wasn’t one big moment. No lightning bolt. No lottery ticket. No fairy tale.
There were just quiet moments of awareness… and decision.
A book. A prayer. A conversation. A breakdown that led to a breakthrough.
I started noticing that some people—despite challenges—lived from a place of peace, generosity, and joy. They gave without fear. They celebrated others without comparison. They showed up fully, knowing they were already enough.
I wanted that. Deeply.
So I started doing the work. Slowly. Clumsily. But consistently.
The Work of Growing Into Abundance
Personal growth isn’t glamorous. It’s not just vision boards and affirmations. It’s soul work.
Here’s what it looked like for me (and still does):
• Changing how I talk to myself. I had to stop speaking lack over my life. No more “I can’t afford that.” I replaced it with: “How can I afford it?” or “It’s not in my budget yet, but it’s coming.”
• Gratitude—even when it was hard. I started finding abundance in small things. A warm cup of coffee. A kind message. My child’s laughter. Gratitude began to shift my perspective.
• Setting boundaries. I realized scarcity kept me overcommitted and exhausted. Abundance taught me that saying “no” protects my “yes.”
• Investing in myself. I stopped waiting for permission. I took courses, went to therapy, read, prayed, and connected with women who challenged and inspired me.
• Rewriting my story. Scarcity said I had to repeat my past. Abundance says I can rewrite the narrative. I don’t have to be who I used to be.
• Trusting God. Abundance isn’t just mindset—it’s rooted in faith. I started to believe that God is not limited. His resources, grace, and favor are unlimited—and I am His daughter.
Still Becoming
I wish I could say I’ve mastered it. But I haven’t.
There are still days when scarcity creeps in, whispering that I’m not doing enough, not earning enough, not moving fast enough. But now I know how to quiet that voice.
Now I remind myself that I don’t have to compete—what’s for me will find me.
I don’t have to hustle for worthiness—I already have it.
I don’t have to fear the future—I’m being led by purpose.
I still have a long way to go. I’m still learning, healing, building. But my life looks and feels different because of the mindset shift from lack to limitless.
You Can Shift, Too
If you’re reading this and you’ve been living with a scarcity mindset, I want you to know this:
You are not alone.
You are not behind.
And it’s not too late to shift.
Abundance isn’t about having it all—it’s about knowing that you’re already whole. It’s not about perfect timing—it’s about showing up, little by little, and believing that good things are possible for you, too.
You don’t need permission. You need belief.
So here’s your reminder:
There is more than enough love, money, success, peace, and joy to go around.
You are not in competition—you’re in your own divine lane.
You can live from a place of abundance, even if you’re still becoming.
Because growth is the most abundant journey of all.
